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I know you understand what you think I said…

Posted in Crazy Wisdom on Saturday, October 25, 2003 at 12:11 am by flerly.

Friends are people we love and care about. We respect our friends and wish them the best. We all have something in common in that we all need friends in our lives. We share our thoughts, feelings, hopes, dreams, sorrow, and most of all we like to share our happiness. We count on our friends as they count on us for things. The more we share with our friends, the closer we get to them. We make room in our hearts for our friends.

Our friends fill our lives with joy. When our friends hurt, we’re there to comfort them and they’d do the same for us. We want to know everything about our friends and learn in life that we really need them. Friends are people we commit to; who we know will be there for us. Without friends life feels very lonely and incomplete.

True friends are hard to come by and it takes work to be a friend and have a friend.

/random thought generator on…

Infinite Diversity, Infinite Combination

We are one of a kind human creatures. We all have a past, a history. A story. We all want to know how we fit in. How does what you’re saying relate to me? Where do I fit into your story? We’re all about me me me.

That’s perfectly natural. Absolutely human and nothing to be ashamed of. It doesn’t make us vain or abnormally self-absorbed. It just reflects the truth of the human condition. Who better to be interested in us than ourselves?

Of course, this is only true to a certain extent. Definitely, there are narcissists who take “me” to the extreme.

By realizing that you have been a player in a game gives you the edge so that you can withdraw from it, protecting yourself and your own interests.

“How can I please you?”

This game is played when we are so worried about upsetting others that we will do anything to please them. We’re afraid to turn them down, disappoint them or say ‘No!’. At the heart of this game is fear. Fear of being disliked and/or rejected.

“Do I really want to stay in this game, or do I want to call it quits?”

It can help to keep a journal of your thoughts and feelings, to recognize any patterns of behavior that may be arising. Sometimes, our behaviors have their roots in childhood, other times they may be behaviors we have chosen in response to other people.

If you answer YES to any of the following questions then you need to ask yourself why you are deliberately hurting/punishing yourself:

* You bend over backwards to do favors for people at your own expense.
* Wherever you work you end up as a ‘Cinderella’.
* You see everything as your fault, apologizing profusely (even if it’s not)
* Consistently feeling guilty for your actions

Personal Accountability…or A Not So Very Fine Whine

I’ve finally figured out what you must have known for a while. It’s time to take this in new and interesting directions. That’s the good news. The bad news is we’ve got this one last whine to get through.

I apologize for airing our grievances in public. I was disillusioned, angry, selfish, and most of all, wrong. I put myself in the middle of things while insisting it was the last place I wanted to be. “The Wise One,” I was way off track, the power had gone to my head, and I owe you all an apology.

Thank you all for putting up with, what amounts to, a massive fear of change.

/random thought generator off…

To quote:

disclaimer (which i should not have to do but god knows how people read my journal get all pissy) everything contained here with is due to MY perticular mood and has nothing to do with YOU. It is not anything YOU did, it is not anything YOU can fix and it is not meant to offend anyone. Once again, for the record it is MY journal to post MY feelings and if you can’t handle it don’t read it. —

Please, heed this advice.


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