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Posted in Crazy Wisdom on Wednesday, October 10, 2007 at 10:27 am by flerly.

Current brother count: Probably 2. Not because he said so again, but because I’m tired of this shitty emotional roller-coaster.

a definition of emotional/verbal abuse

– You understand their feelings, but they never attempt to understand yours;
– They dismiss your difficulties or issues as unimportant or an overreaction;
– They do not listen to you;
– They always put their needs before yours;
– They expect you to perform tasks that you find unpleasant or humiliating;
– You “walk on eggshells” in an effort not to upset them;
– They ignore logic and prefer amateur theatrics in order to remain the centre of attention;
– Instead manipulate you into feeling guilty for things that have nothing to do with you;
– They attempt to destroy any outside support you receive by belittling the people/ service/practice in an attempt to retain exclusive control over your emotions;
– They never take responsibility for hurting others;
– They blame everyone and everything else for any unfortunate events in their lives;
– They perceive themselves as martyrs or victims and constantly expect preferential treatment.

Edit: Right now I’m reading “Emotionally Abusive Relationships: How to Stop Being Abused and How to Stop Being an Abuser.” I’ve sent him a copy. Right now he is again in denial, or rather, rationalizing everything, and in the process of regretting having admitted his problems to us. Still talking, which I hope to God is a good sign for him, but still not apparently thinking. This book, which is written for couples on both sides of this situation, purports to help heal these relationships and let people move forward. Here’s hoping he can see I’m trying to help him.


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  1. fluffyluggage has made a Comment

    I’m so sorry. I can sympathize tremendously. I hope you can work this out, or at least get to a point where you can be happy with how things are. I know it’s gotta be very difficult. *hugs*

    October 10, 2007 @ 12:27 pm

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